When I feel helpless, I write. I wrote this a few months ago not sure if I would ever share it. But, today I realized we cannot just sit back in silence. We cannot be blind. We cannot be ignorant. Our world needs peace. It need acceptance. It needs open, productive, and peaceful conversations. So, maybe this will start one.
I grew up in a small Texas town. I was sheltered. I was blind. I was taught equality, and I believed it. I never saw the color of my skin as an advantage. History books and teachers explained racial issues and racism as something that put people at a disadvantage. It wasn’t until college during a gender and cultural class that I even thought about how the color of my skin gave me privilege.
Shortly after the Trayvon Martin case began, my professor asked everyone in the class to raise their hand if they had ever been pulled over by the cops – a majority of the class raised their hands. The professor then asked us to keep our hands raised if the cop searched our car. My hand went down. The girl’s hand next to me went down, and then I looked around. A majority of the hands left in the air were students of a different race. We then spent a large majority of the semester discussing white privilege.
I’m able to turn on the TV and see people of my race as lead characters on pretty much every channel. I can be pulled over by the cops, and not be questioned or searched because of the color of my skin. I can walk through an airport and be pulled into TSA pre-check because they do not see me as a threat. When I cut my hand, I can use a Band-Aid that matches the color of my skin. I grew up playing with dolls and Barbies that looked like me. White privilege.
I’ve never had a conversation with my parents about how to behave around law enforcement. It was never something they had to worry about. I’ve never feared police officers. I never questioned how it looked if I was wearing a sweatshirt. These conversations are happening all around me. And, the fact is, they have to happen, because things aren’t changing.
We cannot deny white privilege. We can acknowledge it and make steps toward removing prejudice and racism. White privilege does not discount your own hardships. It is not something you can apologize for. It’s not even about you individually. It’s a concept and a reality of the culture we live in, and it’s something you must acknowledge and be aware of.
My hope is that this gets you thinking about something you may not have thought about before. Checking your privilege is not about apologizing. It’s simply recognizing and acknowledging the life experiences and privilege differences that exist. Whether it’s race privileges, gender privileges, or economic privileges, there comes a time when many of us can stop and check our privileges. Be willing and able to examine yourself and set aside your bias to see inequalities that exist today.
Prayers for Dallas. Prayers for our police. Prayers for their families. Prayers for Peace.
Alton Sterling
Philando Castile
Freddie Gray
Michael Brown
Walter Scott
Laquan McDonald
Eric Garner
And the many who have been left unnamed.